Is There An Ideal Age To Have A Baby?
Should you take advantage of the vibrant, prime-of-life decade and start a family in your 20s? Are the more settled circumstances of the 30s, along with a still-young heart and body, the ideal years to start a family? Do parents in their 40s know secrets that give them ‘the edge’? There are advantages and disadvantages to all possible ages, and deciding when to have a baby is a very personal decision for each couple.
Of course, each family’s circumstances are different, and people do learn to adapt to the realities of parenthood. Here are a few things to consider about when to start a family.
The 20s span 10 years of major life change for most people. You’re often still trying to find your feet, and settle down, while attempting to find a balance between work and play. While it may seem crazy to have a baby at 20 or 21 years, by the age of 27 or 28, you’ll be able to tap into most of the benefits while avoiding many of the disadvantages of having babies in your 20s.
Often the debate about the best age to have a baby centres on the relative safety in pregnancy at an older age. Not so long ago, a woman having her first baby after 30 years was called an ‘elderly primup’ – this has now changed to 35 years, because women are choosing to have their children at an older age.
Many couples prefer to live their younger years unencumbered by the demands of parenthood. Sometimes, it takes a while before finding a good partner, and by the time you’re in your 40s, divorce and re-marriage are common, and you may want a child with your new partner. Women who choose not to marry, but who still want a child, often embark on parenthood in their 30s or 40s.